One of the most powerful shifts I’ve experienced in this mid-life season is an elemental shift in focus from doing to being. I used to think that a focus on being meant rest, self-care, connection, fun, play. Then, for a season, I saw it as a different approach to productivity. I focused intently on the …
Time is arbitrary. We each have 24 hours in a day, and they are relentlessly marching by. We love to cram as much possible into every waking hour, yet we often run out of steam by mid-afternoon. Why is that? You may remember this from science class: Energy is the ability to do work. Merriam-Webster says …
It’s more important to manage your energy than your time. Here’s why. Read More »
Nothing really prepares you for that gut-punch moment of disappointment when you really thought it would work out this time, and it turns out, it didn’t. And when one disappointment turns into a string of them, they weigh heavier and heavier. Chronic disappointment becomes its own form of grief. In those moments, it’s hard not …
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Note: This was written four years ago, during an intense season of uncertainty. I want to share it here, for those going through such a season now. Please rest assured, it doesn’t last forever. There’s a sweet spot between being totally adrift, and being owned by my to-do list, and lately I’ve been calling it …
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We can be so hard on ourselves, can’t we? We judge ourselves harshly, we hold ourselves back from being happy, we don’t give ourselves the things we need. It’s so easy to justify our actions as necessary, or selfless, or evidence of high standards that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. And we certainly …
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Sometimes, the world feels relentless. We’re pulled in a thousand different directions every day, and not just logistically. Our hearts themselves are often pulled, bruised, tattered, and disconnected. Sometimes, the loneliest place to be is in the middle of a crowded room. The painful irony is that the more emaciated and disconnected your heart is, …
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On a grey morning in February, I tucked myself into the back corner of the cutest café Liverpool has to offer, with a cinnamon-maple latte and my journal, for what had become an annual tradition of reflection. The mug fit perfectly in my hands, comforting and soothing, and was the perfect moody grey to match …