5 Sneaky Time Drains (And How to Avoid Them) [the decorative background photo shows a notebook, a pen, a cup of coffee, a few sprigs of lavender, and a collection of gold paperclips]

As you probably know, I’m a big fan of the Not-To-Do List. Deciding what you’re not going to spend time on is every bit as important as deciding what you are going to spend time on. What I’ve found, though, is that the most important Not-To-Do’s are the ones that affect how I feel, more …

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Three Comforts and Three Questions For When Nothing is Going Right

Nothing really prepares you for that gut-punch moment of disappointment when you really thought it would work out this time, and it turns out, it didn’t. And when one disappointment turns into a string of them, they weigh heavier and heavier. Chronic disappointment becomes its own form of grief. In those moments, it’s hard not …

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Daily Bread: How to Embrace the Goodness Today Offers [the decorative image shows a cutting board and a tea towel with scattered blueberries and blackberries, a drizzle of honey, a few pieces of bread and cheese. The mood is simple but lovely.]

Note: This was written four years ago, during an intense season of uncertainty. I want to share it here, for those going through such a season now. Please rest assured, it doesn’t last forever. There’s a sweet spot between being totally adrift, and being owned by my to-do list, and lately I’ve been calling it …

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Loving yourself is hard. Here are three ways to get better at it. [The decorative background image shows a woman wrapped up in a cozy grey sweater, snuggled into herself. The photo is cropped to focus on her gentle smile and her arms. The vibe is that she is learning to be kind to herself.]

We can be so hard on ourselves, can’t we? We judge ourselves harshly, we hold ourselves back from being happy, we don’t give ourselves the things we need. It’s so easy to justify our actions as necessary, or selfless, or evidence of high standards that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. And we certainly …

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The Best Idea (How to Pick It and Stick With It). A decorative image to the right shows a goal planner ready to be filled out, as well as a watch, a cup of coffee with creamer, and a few binder clips. The feel of the photo is that the person behind the camera is ready to set goals, but needs to figure out which goals to set.

The world is so freaking noisy, isn’t it? So many people are eager to tell you exactly what worked for them, and the implication seems to be that obviously if you were doing it right, it would work for you, too. As if that’s not enough, our internal voices are often eager to tell us …

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Feeling Overwhelmed? Here are Five Practical Ways to Free Your Mind. [The decorative image shows a young woman sitting in a coffee shop, writing in a notebook. She has long, light brown hair with some waves. She wears a cozy white sweater. On the table there is a small cup of coffee and a plant.]

Last weekend, my husband and I spent 30 minutes in line at a BBQ food truck, only to learn they’d run out of their top menu items. The woman working the window apologized repeatedly as the couples in front of us grew more agitated. I could understand why people were disappointed after waiting in such …

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Five Ways to Turn Inspiration Into Transformation. The background photo shows a man sitting on the ground, writing in a notebook.

I spent my 18th summer in Peru, volunteering at an orphanage in the foothills of the Andes with a dozen other teens. Between my recent graduation and my foreign travels, I felt emboldened to try something new. I stepped off the plane into the dry desert air with this thought firmly lodged in my mind: …

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A flatlay of gold-colored desk accessories. A notebook, scissors, glasses, paperclips. A bouquet of flowers and a white keyboard. A white mouse is visible under the text. The text reads "How to turn your best intentions into actions."

Time gets away from us so easily. Often, we have goals, to-do lists, and schedules, but if we take a step back, we realize our highest priorities don’t fit within that framework. Think of setting intentions as building a new framework that honors your highest priorities.  Are there relationships you want to nurture? What personal, …

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